Wishful Thinkers Anonymous

 There is a commercial, I don't really remember which one it is, but in the background it says: Wishful Thinkers Anonymous.  It made me smile when I saw it, I thought to myself: "Isn't it all of us?"  We all have some wishes we anonymously carry inside and are too afraid to say out-loud.  

Sometimes I am afraid to say my wishes out-loud even when I am completely alone.  There are a couple of reasons for that.  First, I am a true believer that wishes do come true, and second of all: I am no longer sure that we, humans, know what is good for us.  When you wish for something - you will get it.  It may just not be exactly what you meant, and it may not be exactly when you wanted it, and it may be totally wrong and unneeded when you get it. 

Since I now think that we, human beings, may not necessarily know what is good for us, I try to teach myself to enjoy the present as it is and hold off on the wishes.  We are not all seeing Gods and the truth and reality can be quite a complicated tangle of actions, perceptions, wishes and desires of so many people, which could dramatically complicate any one particular wish.  Do you deserve your wish more than the other person deserves theirs?  What if those two wishes are completely opposite?  Which wish deserves granting and which doesn't?  It makes for a very complicated decision making process for the wish grantor. 

Wish making is quite a paradox.  One time I wished to live on the beach, I remember the picture I had in my mind...white sand, boat, tall trees... shortly after that I ended up living in the camper on the sandy land with white sand under my feet, a boat in front of the camper and I was surrounded by tall cedar trees - it was not exactly what I wanted ... but the feeling of relaxation from the wish was there, my wish did come true. 

I wished for peace and quiet several times in my life and I regretted it every time I got it: my kids were taken, the house was empty, I didn't have as much to do and all of a sudden I didn't want to do anything at all.  I had plenty of quiet and plenty of peace, but I no longer wanted any of it. 

Wishes do come true, and what we all have to remember is that we need to be careful what we wish for; as wish is a signal to the Universe that something is missing, you are not quite satisfied, something needs to change.  Wish follows the desire to have something, a desire so strong that we say: "I wish ..."  But a desire can be a dangerous trap leading to something we may temporarily want but not necessarily need.  Besides: if we wish for something other than what we already have doesn't it mean we don't appreciate and value what we have in the present right in front of us?  We don't appreciate the gifts we have already been given.   .....???

Life is a motion.  We have to move to survive and to be healthy.  So for instance my wish for peace and quiet was just a lack of my personal ability to take control of my time and allow myself to rest when needed.  By putting too much pressure on ourselves we burn out and then wish for peace and quiet; when we get it - we are unable to enjoy it, because since we didn't appreciate what we had, even though our wish was just an impulsive desire of a cranky child, the wish has been granted and the motion is gone; what we did have was exactly what we needed - the motion of life.  As a result in my case I got what I wanted while I lost what I needed.  

Our wishes get granted.  You wish for someone to leave you alone - eventually they will and hopefully you don't feel that it is a loss at that point.  I found that with less wishing comes the desire to enjoy life as it is, enjoy where you are, the couch, the sky, appreciate little things around you, be it a picture of a loved one, a thought of the awaited future or long gone past.  Even a few seconds of being inside your own head without interruptions can feel refreshingly uplifting. 

Humans are rebels, sometimes we just want to break the rules, do something out of order.  We rebel against God, authority, our parents, the world or even ourselves.  It is OK to let your inner rebel play once in a while and have your wishful thinking.  It is OK to be human.  I wish...  Wish created by desire also needs an action to go get that wish.  If you wish to win a lotto you have to play the lottery.  If I wished to live at the beach I should have moved to the beach, me living where I live, the closest thing to the beach is a lake and a sandy land.... it's the best the grantor of wishes could do with what I surrounded myself with without breaking the earth's crust and bringing the beach to me.

Wishful Thinkers Anonymous...  We wish for houses, when we already have houses; we wish for cars when we already have cars; happy relationships, different relationships and so far... A lot of our wishes are right in front of us and we are just too stubborn to stop wishing and aching for "another" and enjoy and improve what we already have. 

That reminds me: I just read a book that suggested that you shouldn't tell anyone your wishes... I have to disagree.  Especially with the small stuff, if you tell people your wishes, they may be able to help you accomplish your wish, and it's no big deal at all, it may even make someone's day to be of service to another being and to be able to make your day.  Believe it!  There are many kind people out there just waiting to help without expecting anything in return other than: "Thank you."

Wish less, enjoy more!  I wish ...  No, I know that there are people out there that can help my not quite anonymous wishful thinking become a reality.  Let's make Innocent Tears Act a reality! 

Ask and you shall receive.  Ask the Texas Representative today to sponsor the Innocent Tears Act.