The Kind Heart

Today is my mom's Birthday.  Even though I have not seen her in years I cherish this day and celebrate her kind heart within my being.  Without her there wouldn't be me.  My mom comes from the long line of kind-hearted women none of which had easy lives.  The stories of the acts of kindness and compassion from their lives made me into who I am. Even though I don't remember many interactions with my mom's mother and grandmother I feel deeply connected to their values, I feel their strength and commitment to being a good human being despite many painful experiences of the life. 

Sometimes I listen to people analyze me and my life from the tribune of their own experiences and perceptions based on some third party words and I can't help but to smile.  What can you do when someone has their mind already made up, when their minds are closed to any different opinions and experiences?  Can you explain yourself to those that don't want to see anything beyond what they think they see?

Does the kind heart make you perfect?  Of course not.  We are all imperfect human beings, but when your heart can love and empathize like no other, your intentions are pure, your desires are not led by greed or power, they are led by the desire to see happiness in the eyes of those around you, desire for true meaningful connections and peace. 

We can't see the human heart to recognize it, but they say eyes are the mirror of the soul.  I've seen many kind eyes but nearly not as many as I'd like to see.  Kind eyes are never in a hurry, they are full of patience, they carry deep wisdom and sadness of empathy, they are calm, inviting and peaceful.  When you look into the eyes of the kind-hearted person you feel free and at ease, you are no longer judged, you are home, you are welcome, you belong.

Over the years I grew to deeper understand the saying: your strength is in your weakness.  It is possible that what we call weaknesses are not weaknesses at all: kindness, forgiveness, the ability not to pursue revenge are choices consistent with the person's values and beliefs that perceived by the "strong" members of our society as weaknesses.  In one of my psychological evaluations they called me a "people pleaser", it was said that my desire to see everyone get along backfires and causes pain and suffering in my life. 

The pain and suffering that "strong" people see as a disadvantage is making us more empathetic, kind and resilient on a daily basis.  It gives us a different perspective on life and what is truly valuable.  It lets us choose which relationships are worth pursuing and which are better left alone.  It helps us understand that we are all unique and different, that we are not in charge of anyone's calling and desires.  It helps us follow by example and choose which examples we want to follow.  Our pain and suffering makes us who we are.  

Quote from G.I. Jane describes it the best: 

"Pain is your friend, your ally.  It will tell you when you are seriously injured.  It will keep you awake and angry, and remind you to finish the job and get the h*ll home.  But you know the best thing about pain? ... It lets you know you are not dead yet."

There are few that cannot feel physical pain, there are some that cannot feel emotional pain, but the majority of us slowly grow tolerance towards the pain throughout the years of our existence; which slowly transforms us into more empathetic, kind-hearted individuals we all should aim to be. 

We don't have to be perfect.  We don't have to be always right.  We don't have to have everyone like us and agree with us.  But we have to try to be better than we were yesterday one day at a time.  It's not with a goal to be perfect, it's with a goal to be more understanding and humane. 

Acknowledge the kind hearts in your life.  

It's time for all of us to build a more humane society one day at a time.  Join Texas Pro-Family Advocates Facebook Group.  Support DFPS Reform.  Will Innocent Tears Act into reality.  

Our strength is in our kindness.  A kind heart is a forgiving heart.  A kind heart lives a meaningful self accomplished life.  It's full of joy and satisfaction from life well lived.  Keep your strength going by sharing kindness with those around you one day at a time.

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