The Flow

Like with everything else in life there are different perspectives out there about going with the flow.  On one hand if you go with the flow you are going through your life with the least resistance, spending the least amount of energy and having the least amount of stress so it seems; on the other hand some say if you go with the flow you will end up at the bottom of the hill often in the big pile of sludge.  Going with the flow can be considered a sign of trust in higher power or a sign of giving up, weakness and laziness.  Just like everything else in life every situation requires unique evaluation. 

If all individuals are unique than all the situations involving all the different unique individuals require unique solutions. 

If I'm going with the flow and all of a sudden there is a bunch of trash flowing around me - it's probably time to get out of the stream.  What we do forget that there isn't just one flow and one spring, one river and one current out there, there are many ways, currents and other conditions of the world that effect the flow of your personal life. 

When you are in the flow and something is making you feel uncomfortable it may be time to think about making some "out of the flow" decisions.  Society didn't just learn to make artificial rivers and lakes, we have learned to make artificial streams of life, where everything seems normal and looks like it belongs, but in reality we are all going in the wrong direction, the flow has been artificially changed and we are too trusting or maybe too scared to get out of the flow and ask each other where is this flow taking us and why?  

Sadly, until the tragedy strikes us personally we don't feel a thing.  We have made ourselves so busy, that we lost the ability to see and feel the pain of others.  We are so tired and we have become so dis-attached from pain of others that we look at horror and murder scenes as entertainment.  We laugh at politicians and criticize officers.  Why criticize and ridicule those who we are unwilling to be? 

This would be a different world if we would take our civil responsibilities seriously and were deeply engaged in decision making of our neighborhoods, cities, counties and the country as a whole. 

I see wrong, but it's not happening to me, so I will just be on my way and go with the flow, and let that other person get swallowed by that same flow I'm floating in peacefully, because it's not me who is drowning, I am OK...  

For now you are...  But if we let people change where our society is flowing, in which direction, without any participation, before you know it, the flow may just lead us into a big swamp where we all get eaten by the "gators" of life.  Why "gators" and not "sharks"?  Because sharks swim in the cleaner ocean water and feed on fish, this is more of a swamp and those who are waiting for us at the bottom are more like gators feeding on dead flesh of those abandoned by the society misunderstood unique individuals. 

Only to think that, all I wanted to do is be a mother to my children...  Is that too much to ask?  If I continue going with the flow of this unfair system I will soon have no children to raise.

People misunderstand my husband's and my ability to be kind for weakness.  Every day we make a conscious decision not to cause harm to others, we make a conscious decision to forgive, to believe in the strength of our spirit and to speak out against wrongdoing.  Every day one day at a time we continue towards the right thing to do.  The right thing to do for one, may not be the right thing to do for another.  We are all unique and each one of us struggles to find that unique right thing to do.  

If you are a parent or a grandparent you are already flowing in the same flow I am in right now.  You may have not been affected by it in any way, but the rules and the laws governing your life are the same rules and laws that are governing my life.  And for change to happen I ask that you get out of the flow and see what laws surround our children and their parents, because your children will be parents, and even if you have not been affected by these laws, they may be.  And then - it'll be too late.  You will be a grandparent and if we don't change this law in the eyes of the law you will have no power of say so what so ever. 

Parents and grandparents need to stand up and promote DFPS reform.  We need to keep our families together.  United we stand - divided we fall.  

Call your representative and ask them to sponsor the Innocent Tears Act as a part of the much needed DFPS Reform.