Who Are You People?

This question came to my mind this morning: "Who are you people?"

Almost 24/7 for 3 and a half years my little child was by my side.  She never woke up with her mom not being close by, she never not knew where her mom was, she never felt alone. 

And then one day, because someone said something while she was asleep, she woke up with strangers questioning her, not knowing where her parents were.  And she was taken just like that!  

What possesses someone to judge a person with a 30 second interaction?  Can I do the same?

Based on the 30 second interaction I had with DFPS investigator who made a life changing decision on behalf of my youngest child saying that this life changing event was in her best interest, I see a person who is lost and many unanswered questions.  Is she aware of all the pain she is causing to the young children she takes, does she love her parents, does she have any meaningful relationships, does she have any deeper purpose to her being?  

What possesses this person to cause unimaginable long lasting pain to children and their parents?  Did she have a violent childhood, did her brothers and sisters abuse her, did she feel hated by her parents, or is she just an entitled ego centered being feeding on the ghostly dream of ultimate power and control over somebody else's life?  Is it because she can't organize her own life and the relationships in her life are unworkable or is it just a pure desire to hurt others that drives her from deep within her being?  Can she not feel the pain?  Has she been blocking out her own feelings for so long that she lost the ability to feel?  

Empathy is an interesting human concept, it is not anything we are born with.  Emotional intelligence and empathy come from many painful experiences of your own life, it is your ability to relate to the pain of others, your ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person and feel what they feel.  You can't feel what the other person feels in 30 seconds.  You have no idea who they are and where they came from.  30 second interaction with one human being caused me a year of my life with my children.  This should not be aloud, no matter what a convincing story someone told people about you, no matter how much others hate you, your child should not be treated like an "object" that people can take to punish you for whatever it is they feel you need to be punished for. 

In reality we are all human, I do not know what happened to that person that judged me in 30 seconds and that person does not know what happened to me, not even now, almost a year later, that person still has no idea who I am and I have no idea who that person is, but just like that 30 second interaction changed my child's and my life.

My daughter was watching this cartoon before she left called "Luis and the Aliens", where CPS agents portrait-ed as hostile aliens.  It hurt me to watch that movie, the flash-backs of how it's all done... and the cartoon does a very good job to make you feel the love between the child and the parent and the inevitability of the "CPS" in the best interest of the child judgement upon the parent.  The love of the parent was there, the heart was there, the brain maybe needed to catch up, but there was no mal intent, but because the parent didn't fit in into this "standard" that has been created by the unknown entity, all of a sudden the judgement was about to be passed and the child was about to be taken.  In the cartoon, it all worked out at the end, in real life with way less severe situations the families are broken in pieces and parents are left on the battlefield of the "DFPS Interview" for dead. 

So many times I ask myself: who are these people and are they even really people? 

I thought it was our desire to help others that differentiate us from the other predators.  What does it mean to be human?  Doesn't DFPS admits their failure right there and right then when they take your child?  They are telling the world that this family, this child, this situation can not be helped, there is nothing these experts in human psychology and social interactions can do to solve this puzzle of inner family  relationships.  DFPS announces its failure and declares the verdict of: immediate termination of the parent-child relationship is in the best interest of this child.  

Don't be fooled by the year of the "services".  The relationship with your child as you knew it is over as soon as they take your child.  May the process of parental alienation begin!  Everything you taught your child will be undermined, your authority will be destroyed, your feelings will be smothered with dirt, everything you say will be treated as an excuse and you will get to see the child that you love so much - one miserable hour a week, where you have to hold your tears back, watch every word you say and try to keep your child's faith in your unconditional love going - in one hour a week, for as long as they see fit. 

Does that sound right?  Does that sound humane? And does it do any good?

No.

This practice is inhumane, unfair, unconstitutional,it is not right and it doesn't do any good for the child, the parent, the family of the child or the society as a whole.  And if all this is just about money, then it's plain Evil. 

Promote DFPS reform!  Promote Innocent Tears Act!  Let's make change happen for all the parents and children of the State of Texas!  Say : "Enough wasting our money on destroying people's families!"