Reason To Believe

 There is a commercial, I don't really remember which one it is, but in the background it says: Wishful Thinkers Anonymous.  It made me smile when I saw it, I thought to myself: "Isn't it all of us?"  We all have some wishes we anonymously carry inside and are too afraid to say out-loud.   Sometimes I am afraid to say my wishes out-loud even when I am completely alone.  There are a couple of reasons for that.  First, I am a true believer that wishes do come true, and second of all: I am no longer sure that we, humans, know what is good for us.  When you wish for something - you will get it.  It may just not be exactly what you meant, and it may not be exactly when you wanted it, and it may be totally wrong and unneeded when you get it.  Since I now think that we, human beings, may not necessarily know what is good for us, I try to teach myself to enjoy the present as it is and hold off on the wishes.  We are not all seeing Gods and ...

Today is my mom's Birthday.  Even though I have not seen her in years I cherish this day and celebrate her kind heart within my being.  Without her there wouldn't be me.  My mom comes from the long line of kind-hearted women none of which had easy lives.  The stories of the acts of kindness and compassion from their lives made me into who I am. Even though I don't remember many interactions with my mom's mother and grandmother I feel deeply connected to their values, I feel their strength and commitment to being a good human being despite many painful experiences of the life.  Sometimes I listen to people analyze me and my life from the tribune of their own experiences and perceptions based on some third party words and I can't help but to smile.  What can you do when someone has their mind already made up, when their minds are closed to any different opinions and experiences?  Can you explain yourself to those that don't want to see anything beyond wh...

  In war on parents - the child is the casualty. The war on parents could be an official government led action or civil action between two disagreeing adults.  One of the podcasts I listened to recently described our society's present mentality as the war mentality.  As soon as we encounter something that makes us feel even slightly uncomfortable or annoyed without further delay and research we begin our attempt to eliminate the unwanted, annoying and uncomfortable to us belief, being or an item; and without any consideration of what purpose may these annoyances carry and what can they help us reveal about ourselves we undermine the natures attempt to give us an opportunity for growth.  Some people believe that finding the truth is the priority of one's existence, that the ultimate reality will eventually reveal itself and that the knowledge of that truth will bring them peace.  In therapy it is best described as the need for closure.  The Bible warns us ab...

 Mythical Chinese money frog that symbolizes good fortune, money and prosperity is not worth any more with a penny in its mouth than the one without a penny.  Even though it is believed to bring good fortune the frog itself does not get to keep the fortune or take it with it wherever it goes.  It's the same with human beings.  Some of us are luckier than others, yet we don't accumulate our luck and we can't take our fortune or any earthly possessions once we retire into the unknown.  And what do we really leave to our children?  The desire to possess, the urge for power and the mess we and the generations before us have created.   I hope that one day our children will see the value in rebuilding the relationship without destroying it, fixing the problem without deleting connections, reconstructing your present without demolishing all those around you. All of us, like a frog with a penny, with or without possessions, luck, careers, family or connec...

Who is a good teacher and what happens to all the good teachers out there?  Is the good teacher the person who gives you a good grade, the person that agrees with you?  Or is it a person that teaches you to be good no matter what, to think and to challenge the way we judge and treat others?  Is it a person that teaches you how to be successful or is it a person that teaches you how to make humanity a successful creation? We all have our differences and to stay good despite all the bad around us takes a lot of effort, a lot of encouragement and examples of all the good teachers in our lives.  Inspired by others' courage to stay good and pure in their hearts we attempt to do the same, we follow the good example of others by our example, we lead our children to follow the example of the good teachers by following the example of kindness ourselves.  The best advice I give to my children is: Follow by Example.  Stay true to the goodness and kindness of your hear...

Like with everything else in life there are different perspectives out there about going with the flow.  On one hand if you go with the flow you are going through your life with the least resistance, spending the least amount of energy and having the least amount of stress so it seems; on the other hand some say if you go with the flow you will end up at the bottom of the hill often in the big pile of sludge.  Going with the flow can be considered a sign of trust in higher power or a sign of giving up, weakness and laziness.  Just like everything else in life every situation requires unique evaluation.  If all individuals are unique than all the situations involving all the different unique individuals require unique solutions .  If I'm going with the flow and all of a sudden there is a bunch of trash flowing around me - it's probably time to get out of the stream.  What we do forget that there isn't just one flow and one spring, one river and one current o...

 It is said that writing is a form of deeper self-reflection.  Hamlet, Act III, Scene I comes to my mind: "To be, or not to be: that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, And by opposing end them?"... When families are apart the suffering is inevitable.  All suffer: the children, the parents, the families, and even those who made it happen will eventually suffer with guilt and burden they take upon their souls to separate and break biological love bonds created by nature and God.  All choices have consequences, and when you choose to split families apart for living you are making a conscious choice to cause pain in the lives of many. People are not numbers.  Despite us being treated like numbers for the purposes of keeping track of who we are people have feelings, emotions, experiences and deep-rooted pain.  You may not remember and do not realize it...

 I vaguely questioned the purpose of humanity as a whole in one of my posts, but how about a more personal question: what is my purpose? How many of us have discovered our true purpose?  Something that would make our lives matter, our personal contribution to this world. "You can be whoever you want!" - we hear when we are children.  Maybe... But is who we want also is who we are meant to be?  Many, many years pass ... and sometimes we end up being who we can be vs. who we wanted to be, not even trying to figure out who it is we are meant to be and what our personal purpose is.  What happens when the Universe, God and the Spirit of it all are not aligned with our new found purpose of being as we are?   Being a naturally positive person I have been able to find positives in many uncomfortable situations throughout my life.  I would blend in, adopt and survive.  What I'm doing right now, writing this blog is not me and it's not who I ever wante...

 Too many times now I have encountered attention hungry people playing manipulation games with my and my children's lives.  At first I thought it was just simple hatred but now... I am starting to see the real problem - their broken sense of self.  Despite the perception created by those that "love" us and trying to "help", my husband and I do not crave to cage anyone within the boundaries of our home, or even within the boundaries of our love.  My kids were always encouraged to love the people they love, to speak their minds and to have their own opinions.  Even if I don't like and disagree with the outcomes of their decisions, the decision of how they want to live their lives is ultimately theirs to make.  Children start manipulating their parents from an early age.  In older times this practice was unacceptable but now it's encouraged and widely used by kids of all ages.  Yes.  I said it.  You can be 35 and you are still someone's chi...

Throughout my lifetime I heard a lot that we don't appreciate what we have.  It's kind of like we are addicted to the feeling of constant wondering if there is something better out there.   Here, in the countryside, we drive past many grassy fields with cows and other cattle, and once in a while you will see a cow eating the grass on the outside of the fencing of the property that the cow is on.  When I saw that for the first time the saying "the grass is greener on the other side" came to my mind.  Here is this cow: with the field full of grass, there is absolutely nothing different about the two fields next to each other separated by the fence line, but this cow doesn't want the grass within, it wants the grass on the other side of the fence of where it is, so it puts it's big nose through the holes of the fence, which looks very uncomfortable I must add, and it reaches as far as it can to get to the "greener grass" of some other property.  And thi...

This question came to my mind this morning: " Who are you people? " Almost 24/7 for 3 and a half years my little child was by my side.  She never woke up with her mom not being close by, she never not knew where her mom was, she never felt alone.  And then one day, because someone said something while she was asleep, she woke up with strangers questioning her, not knowing where her parents were.  And she was taken just like that!   What possesses someone to judge a person with a 30 second interaction?  Can I do the same? Based on the 30 second interaction I had with DFPS investigator who made a life changing decision on behalf of my youngest child saying that this life changing event was in her best interest, I see a person who is lost and many unanswered questions.  Is she aware of all the pain she is causing to the young children she takes, does she love her parents, does she have any meaningful relationships, does she have any deeper purpose to her ...