CASA Tragedy

 

 Court Appointed Special Advocates.  Another non-profit contributing to the tragedy of our society...  It claims to be advocating for the children, but in reality if you don't get to know the parents and you are not pro-family, you are not advocating for the children you are advocating for the foster society we have become.

My personal experience with CASA is quite negative.  It is advertised as volunteer based organization, yet the people I have happened to encounter got paid.  They are not eager to make any connection with the parents or the family of the child, they are foster family oriented and they advocate for separation without having any personal engagement or knowledge of the family they are advocating against.  You will not see them reach out to you until the Judge considers Monitored Return. 

This Organisation feels emboldened by their Court Appointed status to operate above the moral conduct of a human being forgetting that the best interest of the child is what they should be protecting; and the best interest of the child is to grow up with the parents and not without.  Very limited cases should allow for separation of the child from the parent.  Tragedy can be the reason for separation; dirty talk and bickering of those that want to do you wrong should not be allowed as a reason to break the family apart. 

But CASA...if the child is returned home - their job is over, they are no longer needed, but if the child stays in the foster care, they all continue to work and make money.  Somebody said once: you want to find a reason for the wrong doing or who is doing it - follow the money. 

If the child is not returned home, the child stays in the system and all the "saviors" continue to get paid out of our national or state "tax" pocket, including the counselors that say, that separation of the child with the parents that child loves and grew up with is no big deal and won't do any major damage to the psychological state of that child,...well...this counselor just guaranteed herself a lifelong client...the child in question - who is going to need counseling for the rest of life to deal with the trauma of separation from the parent. 

Here is another true story.  One time CASA advocate asked me to look through my see-through back pack.  The unsuspected me just gave her the bag and went about my business.  It wasn't until I left the visit 30 minutes later I discovered that they removed 2 toys from my beg and my personal notes.  When I made the police report about it as it was already after business hours, there wasn't enough value to prosecute for theft and the officers said the only thing I will get out of it is an apology if I am lucky, as they are working under government authority and they will just be told to return the items.   They did return the items, the person did get replaced, but the hatred towards me stayed...  How dare I to speak of some imaginary rights I have.  How dare I to question the authority of THE...

This time around in the present, they also fooled me.  The supervisor from CASA was actually a really nice lady and she ended up working with us closer than I ever thought is possible with CASA.  She came to the house, she did not mind a monitored return, she actually liked visiting the child in our house more than driving to the foster placement.... and then....

then...  ... she called in to, or was made to call in to the Trial Hearing...  the County Attorney on the last day of the Trial simply stated that the CASA lady who worked with us has a doctor's note that states that she cannot testify in Court and the doctor's note is good for the whole week.   So...   Her BOSS testified on her behalf, stating that she made up her personal opinion about us without ever talking to us and that the Court should terminate our rights to our daughter.  She was cold.  She was calculated.  And she seemed to be genuinely enjoying destroying my child's future and our little family. 

I didn't stop there.  I complained.  I didn't just write this blog...  I complained to every agency who was in charge of what happened to us. I told them all: I do not have any criminal record, my husband and I do not have any charges from any alleged accusations and it is not OK to simply take people's children from living parents, when both the parents and the child want, willing to and can be together.  So far I got - nothing... 

I complain, they tell me I can appeal, or they are not in charge, or they don't answer me at all like I don't exist: just like they killed me as a parent to my daughter, they killed me as an individual - I have been erased in the eyes of this world.  My child is government property and I...  Who am I if I am no longer the mother to my child?...  Can the government simply erase the status that God and Nature give us? 

Did "We The People" really give our government the authority to erase our HUMAN rights?!!!

What is wrong with us?  Why aren't we paying attention?  I always tell my husband: "People don't know how easy it is to lose everything.  My troubles did not start until I was 37 years old."  All it takes is one persistent person who wants to do you wrong to change the course of your life.  My only hope is that someone is reading and someone is listening.  I hope that there are people out there that CAN and WILL make a difference.  I hope that there are people out there that value family, especially family that wants to be together despite all odds. 

If I were a bad parent, if I wouldn't care about my children, if I would have "problems" and "unmanageable" life...  I would not be writing this blog right now - I would be drowning in my problems. 

 But I only have one problem - my children are not with me.  And I choose to make this problem into a solution for many families to come, because despite the County Attorney saying that my life is unmanageable, I am not a selfish person, I do not think about my personal gain or personal vendettas, I don't dwell on problems - I seek solutions and I find solutions.  

And the solution is: we have to change the law that allows DFPS take children from their parents for empty allegations, we have to support DFPS reform and DFPS services have to aim to strengthen our families not break them. 

Unnecessary separations of children with their parents is not just my problem it is everyone's problem.  If we want a strong, healthy society family health is the number one priority, and we have to fight this problem together and the law that lets people be tortured like this for as long as it is necessary. 

There is no failure except is no longer trying.

It's time to reevaluate the importance of CASA, we don't need advocates advocating on behalf of foster families... we need people, human people advocating on behalf of the families...

KEEP FAMILIES TOGETHER.  It's time to create Court Appointed Family Advocates and heal our broken society one family at a time.  Our kids need kindness and love, not judgement and punishment. 

Help Strengthen Parental Rights.  Support DFPS reform, fight for your children.  Sign the Petition Today: 

 https://www.change.org/petitiontolife





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